Is the statement true "if you can have 3 kids you can have 10?"
Lately I have been mulling over when to have baby #3. There are some days when I think, "Yeah I could do 3." Then there are those days when the house is a mess, I'm a mess, nothing seems to be going well and the thought of having a 3rd sends me into a panic. For me, going from no kids to 1 was a lot harder than going from 1 to 2. However, #3 strike me as a much bigger adjustment. I know that this decision will ultimately be made through much prayer to my Heavenly Father but I just wanted to throw the question out and see what you think.
About Me
- Michelle
- I'm excited to finally have a blog (I'm just a couple of years behind the rest of the pack). Matthew and I have been married for 9 years. We are currently living in Henderson, Nevada. We have two children, Isaac is 5 years old and Ava is 2 1/2. We just graduated from medical school and enjoy living close to both of our families.
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YOU CAN DO IT!! We can get pregnant together, and you can watch my butt grow to the size of an elephant while I watch you stay all cute, tall, and thin! :) I have heard 3 is the kicker, but I think it all depends on the kids. You have good kids, so maybe it won't be too much. Oh what the heck...just jump in and see what happens!! :)
Well, if you want honesty about the adjustment to 3 I'll tell you that for me it was no walk in the park, but I survived to tell about it! I also had a really hard adjustment with 1, 2 was a breeze, #3 left me a little disheveled for a while. My way of finally coping was realizing that NO I could not get it all done and I learned to celebrate my small achievements on days that I felt like breaking down! For example, instead of thinking... the house is a disaster, no one got a bath, we had frozen pizza for dinner (again), I need to lose weight, I haven't done my visiting teaching in months, I don't remember the last time I put on makeup, unless I was in the car, etc. I thought WOW I actually got the dishes done before I went to bed (of course that was only because I didn't cook, but you get the point)!
Not everyone has as hard of a time adjusting, but I get a touch of postpardum!
After I probably either annoyed you with my response or scared you, the reality is that I wouldn't go back and I love my #3 (Audrey) dearly. The other question of you can have 3, why not 10 I wouldn't know yet, but numero cuatro is only weeks away and I have a feeling it may be the last, I don't think I'm a ten kid women! (sorry for the lengthy response, but I'm up with insomnia and obviously babbling).
#3 was my easiest adjustment by far! i have a spacing of three years between all my kids though and i think that helps. for some reason i didnt prepare myself as well mentally for my second...i think i did a little better with number 3...we won't talk about #1! i am excited for you and that it is a possibility. it all works out...eventually! :)
I'm of no help at all because I'm asking myself the same question...go ahead and do it:) You do an awesome job w/your other 2 kiddos. I agree with you, I think it was harder for me w/the first than it is w/ 2...that being said, I have heard 3 is rough! I just think heck if I can feed, bathe, and take care of 2, I might as well add a 3rd to my chaos:)LOL.
I know you're such a good mom that any kid would be lucky to come to your family. You always seem to take things in stride without skipping a beat, so I'm sure it wouldn't even slow you down much!
I'm sure you could do 3-however, you may want to know what you're in for: I think Tara pretty much covered that.
#1-they pretty much tote around with mom, you do what you want to do, just with a baby.
#2-more laundry, still somewhat able to do what you want toting the kids around. Get some one on one time with #1 while #2 naps.
#3-MUCH more laundry. No time to yourself. While #3 naps you try to keep Thing 1 and Thing 2 from waking him/her up with threat of physical punishment. (see Dr. Suess for description of Thing 1 and 2) Really unable to tote them along unless you don't mind staring and rude comments.
I will note that none of those who made 100% positive comments have 3 children, excluding Rebecca and I think she must have amnesia :)
#4-I think I love him the most!! (I'm not kidding :))
So, to sum it up: GO FOR 10! (If you live past three)
footnote: if your experience greatly differs from mine; I'm pretty sure I can't be your friend:)
I waited 12 years before I had #3, so what do I know! Also, just keep telling yourself Heavenly Father won't give you more than you can handle! That's a promise!
I get asked all the time when #3 is coming. I think for me that I need a bigger break. 2 is killing me on many days. I figure if I wait a year, then #1 Savannah will start kindergarten by the time #3 comes along and then I could handle it. But yeah, I do often question how I could handle 3 or more children. With 2 you at least can tag team up each child with a parent. 3--- You are outnumbered!
You can totally do it! You are like supermom! My mom says after you have 3 you can have a ton cause it's all the same after that. LOL I don't know about a ton, but I think you could do 3 no problem. :)
None to 1 was definitely my kicker while 1 to 2 was very easy. 2 to 3 just about did me in, but I survived. Let me tell you the problem with #3. It takes a while to figure how to juggle them. When you have 2, there is one for you and one for the hubbie. Or, if you are alone, there is one for each hand or each leg to sit on your lap. I didn't figure how to even get a shower into my routine until Lucy (my 3rd) was about 4 months old. By 6 months, I had them figured out enough to atleast have somewhat of a routine. It's never a piece of cake, but I think all that cake goes in the garbage once you have your first anyway. So, what's another one? HAHA No pressure! The most important thing is to have that 3rd when you and Matt are ready. Good luck. You're a great mom!
Michelle, I read this post last week and haven't known any great advice to give. I'll just tell you my thoughts and hope they help!
For me, 3 kids was definitely my biggest adjustment, but my last 2 were only 19 months apart, so they were both babies and I was going a little nuts. Three kids, especially under age 4, make a lot of demands and need you for everything.
Personally, we had a lot of extra outside stress from work and other things, so the environment didn't lend itself to me allowing myself to truly enjoy my kids as much as I should have. I was too caught up in my worries to be the kind of Mom I want to be. I think I am becoming that Mom more and more now that we have taken steps to eliminate things that stress us out and that don't matter in our life, so we have time and energy to enjoy our life. It also helps immensely now that one of mine is in school all day and the other 2 play well together. Now it is kind of hard for me to remember how I felt when Nate first came along and I was crazy-er. :) And as hard as it was having Kyle & Nate really close, I LOVE it now because they are great buddies and keep each other busy.
I guess my point is if you have less stress, it is easier. Also spacing them a little bit apart helps so you don't have quite as many demands of you and the older kids are a bit more independent. I keep thinking about what President Monsen said on Sunday in conference, pretty soon all the fingerprints will be gone and the huge piles of laundry disappeared, and we will truly miss it. It's hard to think of that now, but I know he is right. It is hard, but it's great and we will miss these tough days!!
I am rambling like nobody's business! I'm sorry!!
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